The five main principles of a positive parent-child relationship
1. Listen and don’t give unwanted advice.
When you look back on your teenage years, can you remember how
often you did not feel like studying? Have that understanding for your
child.
· Really hear what your loved one is saying – mirror back to him/her to check what has been said and that you understand.
· Keep communication open by validating what has been said – that there is logic to what he/she has said and that it makes sense.
· Encourage better dialogue by expressing compassion - by putting yourself in the other persons’ shoes and seeing it through their perspective to have empathy.
2. In everyday living, do spend some alone time with your child.
A friend had to re-connect with his son without saying a word because that was how dissatisfied his son was with life at that point. It took one year of driving in silence to watch rugby together - while learning about the rules and players to show his interest - before the boy started sharing his stories and experiences of other areas of his life.
This doesn’t mean there is no discipline. You say, “No”, respectfully and your child has to do his/her chores at home - even if he/she has a negative attitude. It is important for them to have that structure.
3. Avoid heated discussions
It is like touching a hot iron with your hand... you get burned! Don’t try to get your point across when your child is upset. When the direction of the interaction takes the wrong turn, you may say: “Let us pause, rewind and begin again...”.
4. Synergy
Both parties contribute to the solution instead of one being in control. If necessary, during the study course we shall strike a deal to solve the “study problem unique to each family’s situation” in such a way that it works for both parties.
5. Awareness
The messiness of everyday life, like being in conflict with your teenager becomes the teacher of the moment. In order to respond differently than before, you don’t attach to how it ‘should be’/ ‘doing it my way’. Instead, you allow/create the space to see more than your previous beliefs. This moment is all you have to make a difference.
The Course is meant to give you or your children practical insight on how to learn more effectively and with less frustration. The lessons in this course can help in learning many different subjects and skills. Whether you love language or math, music or physics or history, you will have a lot of fun, and learn a LOT about how to study!
It is provided to students on school or university level.
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